January 3, 2011

Chinese weddings are Hectic. (Capital letter intended)
Been in a small town in Fujian for the past few days for my cousin’s wedding. Besides consuming 10 banquet-size meals a day for the three days surrounding the actual wedding day, I had the priviledge of being the maid of honor (which did not work too well with the meal plan – tried on at least a million dresses before they found one which could zip up completely).
The enire marriage process is ridiculously demanding and embedded in so much tradition. To begin, a couple’s wedding date is dependent on their “bazhi” (fortune according to one’s birth date and time). This is super important and specific to the hour. My cousin’s wedding time? 31st December, 10pm – 2am.
The groom arrived at her place approx 11pm with his bunch of best men and a stash of “hongbao” (red pockets). Dressed in complete red attire, my cousin sat in her room with her bunch of bridesmaids to await him. However, like a bit of a game, the bride can’t make herself too easily won over. Instead the groom must fufil all the demands thrown at him by her bridesmaids before he is allowed into the room. And this normally involves handing over hongbao after hongbao. When he is eventually allowed into the room, (in this case because my aunt called to say the wedding car was waiting outside), a “wedding lady” (because I don’t know how else to describe her job title) comes in and lights candles, combs the bride’s hair and feeds her special wedding noodles.
Arriving at the groom’s place, the bride bows her head three times in front of some family portrait (this part I did not pay much attention to) before taken to the groom’s room. And this is only day one.
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